What’s inside

What This Isn’t

• Not a substitute for therapy or coaching

• No fixing, no timelines

• No spam - ever

• Just companionship on paper

There's a kind of grief that starts before anyone dies.

It shows up when someone you love is living with serious illness or frailty. You're still cooking their meals and driving to appointments, and you're already mourning — the person they were last year, the future you'd planned, the version of your own life you set down to do this. That's anticipatory grief, and it's real grief.

It rarely arrives alone. Sadness and fear, yes. But also anger, guilt, numbness, relief, and moments of genuine gratitude, sometimes within the same afternoon. None of that means you're doing it wrong.

This workbook makes room for all of it.

WHAT'S INSIDE — 27 pages, six sections

• Understanding Anticipatory Grief — what it is, why caregiver grief counts, and the shape it usually takes

• Naming Your Grief — what you're grieving now, what you fear is coming, and a Both/And page for holding two true things at once

• Mapping Your Stress & Coping — your triggers, your body's stress signals, what's inside your control and what isn't, and how to ask for help without apologising for it

• Conversations, Meaning & Memories — what you want them to know while they can still hear it, questions worth asking, unfinished business, and low-pressure ways to keep a memory

• You, the Caregiver — the roles you've absorbed, a Guilt Decoder for reading guilt as a value rather than a verdict, boundaries, and micro-rest that fits a real day

• Preparing For What's Next — a comfort and values plan, a practical checklist, your support layers for before and after, and a letter to the version of you who's had a terrible day

WHAT YOU GET

A 27-page PDF, formatted for landscape printing or filling in on screen. Print it once, print it again in three months when things have changed. It's yours to keep.

HOW TO USE IT

You don't have to work through it in order. Treat it like a menu — one small section at a time. If a page increases distress, close it and come back, or do it with someone you trust. Nothing in here is homework.

WHO IT'S FOR

Anyone caring for someone with a terminal diagnosis, dementia, a progressive condition, or the slow decline of old age. Adult children, spouses, siblings, friends, chosen family. Useful at any stage — early diagnosis, the long middle, or the last weeks.

Also used by hospice staff, chaplains, grief coaches and support group facilitators, though group and professional use requires a license. Details are on the terms page and I'm glad to arrange one.

A NOTE

Digital download — no physical item ships. Educational material, not a substitute for medical advice, therapy, or crisis care.