Compass Back to Community
A gentle, guided path for stepping back into social life after loss - at your pace, on your terms.
jAfter loss, showing up to a coffee date, a family dinner, or a Tuesday night meeting can feel like climbing a mountain in the dark. Compass Back to Community gives you the map, the pacing, and the boundaries to reconnect without depleting yourself.
Who this program is for
This program is for you if:
You’ve withdrawn from social life since your loss, and getting back feels overwhelming.
You want to reconnect, but you don’t know where to start or how much you can handle.
You’ve tried to “just push through” a social event and left feeling worse than when you arrived.
You have relationships that are safe, some that are complicated, and some that drain you… and you need a way to sort them.
You want a real plan, not just “be gentle with yourself.”
You need language for boundaries that doesn’t require you to explain your grief every time.
What we do together
Compass Back to Community is a structured, six-stage process - and depending on where you’re starting, you can enter at the beginning or go all the way through implementation and refinement.
Together we’ll:
Understand where you are now: We start by mapping your current social landscape - what feels manageable, what feels overwhelming, and what’s happening when you’ve tried to reengage since the loss.
Sort your relationships: Not everyone in your life belongs in the same tier right now. We organize your people into three clear tiers so you know where to spend your limited energy:
Tier 1 - Safe Harbor: People who understand grief, offer unconditional support, and feel completely safe.
Tier 2 - Supportive: People who mean well but sometimes miss the mark.
Tier 3 - Challenging: People who matter, but whose interactions are currently draining, triggering, or complicated.
Rank what’s easy and what’s not: We list social activities from least to most challenging - considering duration, number of people, structure, emotional weight, and how much recovery time each one costs you.
Build your boundaries: We create the exact language you’ll use to protect your energy - what topics you’re open to, what you’re not, and how you signal when you need a pause. No more freezing when someone asks “How are you really doing?”
Turn the plan into concrete steps: (Steady Progress Tier) We convert each reengagement goal into a specific action step - who, what, prep, recovery, boundaries, and small success markers - nothing is left to willpower in the moment.
Reflect and adjust: (Steady Progress Tier). After each reengagement attempt, we use a short, repeatable reflection routine so your plan evolves based on what actually happened - not what you hoped would happen.
Beginning Steps - $450 The foundation. Stages 1-4
For people who need the map before they take the walk. We assess where you are, sort your relationships, rank your activities from easy to hard, and build your boundary language. You leave with a personalized plan you can start using right away.
What’s included:
One 90-minute Introduction session
Three 60-minute follow-up sessions
A personalized Tier Map and Activity Roadmap
A personalized Boundary Plan you can share selectively
Optional check-in session after your first reengagement attempt.
Timeline: 2-4 weeks, flexible to your pace
Sliding Scale: available
Steady Progress - $800. The full journey. Stages 1-6
For people who want the map and someone walking alongside them as they use it. Includes everything in Beginning Steps, plus the concrete action-planning and reflection work that turns each social attempt into an opportunity to learn and adjust.
What's included:
One 90-minute Introduction session
Seven 60-minute guided planning and reflection sessions
Two 30-minute check-ins after your first reengagements
Detailed, personalized Action Plan PDF with step-by-step tasks
A Reflection Toolkit — "How did it go?" prompts, energy tracker, and boundary script templates
Timeline: 4-8 weeks, flexible to your pace
Sliding scale: Available
A sample action step (what “concrete” looks like)
Who: A close friend
Activity: 30-minute walk in the neighborhood park; mostly listening; no family-history talk.
Prep: 10 minutes of breathing practice beforehand.
Recovery: 20 quiet minutes at home with tea
Boundary language: “I’m happy to catch up about day-to-day things. I’m not ready to talk about the loss today.”
Success markers: Completed 30 minutes and used the boundary phrase.
Small, specific, and honest - that’s the whole approach.
Frequently Asked Questions
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Beginning Steps typically runs 2-4 weeks. Steady Progress typically runs 4-8 weeks. Both are flexible - we adjust the pacing to what you can actually hold.
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Coaching. This is a structured support and planning service focused on social reengagement after loss. It’s not therapy, and it doesn’t diagnose or treat mental health conditions. If clincial support is what you need, we’ll figure that out on the consult and I’ll help you find the right therapist.
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That’s completely fine - and honestly, common. Your roadmap will include virtual and low-impact options paced to your readiness. In-person is a destination, not a requirement.
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Yes. Anything you share is kept private and secure. See the confidentiality note in the footer for the legal boundaries around that .
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If you’re not sure - book the free consult first. Some people know they want the full journey; others want to start with the foundation and see how it feels. There’s no wrong answer, and there’s no upsell pressure from me.
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Yes. If you start with Beginning Steps and want to continue into the action-planning and reflection work, we’ll credit your investment toward Steady Progress. Just ask.
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That’s real, and more common than people talk about. We’ll work with what you have - and part of the work may be gently rebuilding a Tier 1 over time.
A note on scope:
Compass Back to Community is a grief-informed coaching program. It’s not therapy, counseling, or crisis care. If what you’re carrying feels bigger than social reengagement - deep depression, trauma symptoms, thoughts of hurting yourself - please reach out to a therapist, call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline). I’ll help you find the right kind of care if you’re not sure where to start.
Ready to see if it fits?
Book a free 20-minute consult. We’ll talk about where you are, what you’re hoping to reconnect with, and which tier feels right. No pressure to decide anything on the call.