What to Say:

• It’s so painful.

• You are in my thoughts and prayers.

• I wish I had the right words. Just know I care.

• I am here to help in any way I can.

• I’m just a phone call away.

• My favorite memory of your loved one is….

• We all need help at times like this. I am here for you.

• Don’t say anything…just be with the person.

• There was no good reason for this to happen.

• I will do the following thing, at this time of day, for this many days of the week. (People in acute grief don’t always know how to ask for help. Sometimes you just have to step up.)

• We all grieve in our own way and in our own time. You aren’t doing anything wrong.

What Not to Say:

• So many people die young, at least he lived a long life.

• You can have another child, you’re still young enough.

• Stay strong.

• They did this to themselves.

• I know how you feel.

• All that matters is to remember the good times.

• You should start dating again.

• They did what they were supposed to do here and now they it was time for them to go.

• There is a reason for everything.

• Why aren’t you over her yet? She passed so long ago.

• Don't worry, they are in a better place.

• At least he isn’t suffering any longer.

• She was such a good person. God wants her to be with Him.

• Stop being sad, they wouldn’t want you to be sad.

• It’s time to move on.

• Get rid of the reminders. Start fresh.