THE HEALING PATH
Writing for the parts of grief nobody warns you about.
Most of what I write here started as something a client said to me, or something I lay awake with myself. Why do I wake up at 2 a.m.? Why did my friends stop calling? Is it normal to feel relief? Why does it hurt in my chest?
These posts aren't advice from a distance. They're the things I'd say if you were sitting across from me with a cup of tea. Read whatever is closest to what you're carrying tonight. You don't have to read them in order, and you don't have to read
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If you can’t sleep * Why grief wakes you at 2 or 3 in the morning, and what helps.
If it hurts in your body * Grief lives in the chest, the shoulders, the stomach. How to let it move.
If you feel something you “shouldn’t”. * Relief, anger, numbness. All of it belongs.
If your friends have gone quiet * Why people disappear after a loss, what it isn’t, and what to do.
If they’re still here and you’re already grieving * Anticipatory grief, and why it’s real.
How long will my grief last? Does this feeling ever get better?
Scheduled Grief Time: Giving Your Grief A Seat at the Table
Have you ever noticed that grief has terrible timing?
You hold it together all morning. You make it through the meeting. You smile at the checkout clerk. Then you sit down in your car and something breaks open — a song, a memory, a photo on your phone — and suddenly you're sobbing in a parking lot.
If that sounds familiar, I want to introduce you to a practice that changes this pattern for so many of my clients: scheduled grief time.
The paradox that makes it work
At first, the idea of "scheduling" grief sounds absurd. Grief isn't a dentist appointment. It doesn't check your calendar.
But here's the paradox: when we intentionally create space for grief, it stops demanding space at all the wrong moments. It's a bit like a child (or a friend) who just needs to be heard. When they know a real conversation is coming, they don't need to interrupt every ten minutes.
Something to hold onto tonight.
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